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Are you an Imposter??

Imposter-Syndrome

Impostor syndrome‪ is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. Notably, impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women..

If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “One of these days people will realize I don’t know as much as they think,” then you are in excellent company!

This is a classic sign of imposter syndrome and really common in the high achiever. If you can relate to this then feel good as you are likely to be a person that aims high and don’t we all know that’s the best way to achieve anything…….?

If this is you I bet you tend to focus more on what you haven’t done rather than what you have… I know I do!

It’s a bit like thinking how do all these people believe this about me or believe I can do that or question why they come to you for advice! When you are quite capable of giving that advice and actually often surprise yourself with your response or answers to anything they may ask…. I often say it surprises me what comes out of my mouth at times! And I think people think I’m joking but I’m serious I often wonder how I knew that!!

It’s like the devil on your shoulder, a little voice telling you, you are a failure or going to fail, people will soon realize, you’ve been blagging it for long enough, your times up! I call this my Chimp (Read The chimp paradox and you’ll see what I mean) Then the logical brain chirps up and says you deserve this, keep doing what you are doing, You are good at what you do just carry on…. And so the battle begins!

Sometimes when I’m teaching, tutoring, assessing or advising/mentoring students it can be like I’m watching myself thinking am I actually doing that is that really me teaching and advising these people……. and you know what it is! Wow what a thing eh….

So we can all have these moments of feeling like we are going to be ‘found out’ but this can sabotage your success as it may well encourage you to settle for much less than you want to achieve or deserve, therefore never getting out of your comfort zone to really excel in what you are doing.

Imposter picSo give yourself a break, stop comparing yourself to others and remember what you do well and that no one is perfect. Accept those feelings of doubt then brush them aside remember you are worthy and oh so very capable because you the high achiever out there really wouldn’t be where you are today if you were not. 

Claire. 

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